- YOU ARE CHEATING
If your spouse knows or suspects you are cheating, he/she will struggle to be aroused by you
- YOU ARE PAINFUL
If you are too rough, you pump your penis too forcefully, you pinch your spouse’s nipples too aggressively, you inflict pain on your husband’s balls; your spouse will not enjoy you
- YOU ARE DIRTY
If your fingernails are dirty and you want to do fingering or hand jobs, if you keep repeating your innerwear, if you come out of us unkempt and rarely take showers; your spouse will be turned off
- YOU CAUSE HEARTBREAKS
If you mistreat your spouse and offend your spouse but have no thoughtfulness to apologize; your spouse will find it hard to find you sexually attractive
- YOUR MOUTH IS DISRESPECTFUL
If you speak insults, rude and demeaning words; your spouse will struggle to find you sexy
- THERE IS ANOTHER PERSON
Maybe your spouse is distracted sexually and/or emotionally by another person, if that person takes care of your spouse’s emotional and/or needs; he/she will come to you full, with little or no desire for you
- YOU BARELY CREATE TIME
If you barely create time to connect with your spouse but then you want to come to your spouse later in the day horny; you will not get some
- YOU DON’T ENGAGE IN FOREPLAY
If you don’t know how to arouse and prepare your spouse for lovemaking through romancing, touching, licking, grabbing, and rubbing then your spouse will not look forward to your touch
- YOU ARE BORING
If you come off as disinterested, aloof, passive, focusing on one style only, rigid, judgmental, and cautious; your spouse will yawn to sleep when sxx is the topic
- YOU SMELL
If you stink, you smell of sweat, you don’t wash well, you don’t brush your teeth; your spouse will sexually avoid you
- YOUR SPOUSE PREFERS MASTURBATION MORE
Perhaps your spouse is hooked to self-pleasure and regardless of how sexy you are, he/she prefers touching you. Your competition is his/her hands/toys
- UNRESOLVED ISSUES
Conflicts in marriage left unabated can cause a rift in intimacy
- YOU ARE SELFISH
If lovemaking is all about you getting pleasure but not giving pleasure, your spouse will not fancy being with you sexually
- YOU TWO HAVE RUN OUT OF LOVE
Once love is gone; so, does intimacy
- CONTRACEPTIVES
Maybe your spouse is using family planning methods that affect the hormones and libido
- STRESS
Perhaps your spouse is worried about something; his/her health, work, parents, the children, finances, mid-life crisis… it has nothing to do with you
- AGE
Or maybe your spouse is advancing in age and is starting to crave fewer sexual orgasms and more genuine companionship.
Don’t ignore some of these things or say to yourself that, even if I do all of them, he or she will not change, that’s a fat lie. Stop assuming and do the right thing first.