Leave Abusive and Incompatible Marriage to avoid Foolish Death

 

I have been in a relationship with my wife for the past 33 years. We dated for 4 years before marriage. The best marriage counseling, was between the two of us as we tried to accommodate and resolve issues as soon as it rear its head.

Our marriage journey as Africans and especially in Ghana, is tied to the altar of staying in stinking marriage even if the partner is abused.

The abuse, comes in many form but, it tilts towards the women more. Not all of it, come as physical abuse but verbal abuse, which leaves no physical traits, but kills more than anything.

A partner, especially a man who constantly beats the wife, is either not confident, jealous, mentally unstable or a bully. Most African women, stay in abusive marriages because, they don’t want society to see their sufferings. My sister, my brother, leave the marriage if it is not working oooh for we only live once! Religion is not helping either. Weird counseling with some biblical references to further compound and complicate issues, are poured on you.

Instead of families sitting down to settle abusive marriages, religious practitioners, have rather, taken over marriage rites and settling of disputes. I was nearly coerced into marrying someone from a church i attended previously by a Pastor because, he the Pastor had had a dream that, a particular woman was my partner and wanted me to live in his Don Quixotic dreams. I would have been a widower by now. The woman died of complications with her uterus without having any child of her own.

Dear brother or sister, kindly stay away from abusive and incompatible marriages. You will die a foolish death, be taken to a stinking mortuary, a “foolish” carpenter would design your ugly coffin and be buried hurriedly in an unmarked grave.

Rest well Osinachi Nwachukwu of “Ekuweme” song fame as it is alleged that, you died from an abusive marriage.

By Fred Kyei