Conflict is part of relationships. You can’t be in a relationships or marriage without conflicts; resolving them is what grows the relationship. And when couples are not willing to resolve conflicts, they cannot save their relationships. Separation is inevitable.
It’s funny that when a couple fails to resolve their conflict, and as a result, the relationship comes to an end, they take to public space to derogate their spouse. Such behaviour is evidence of immaturity.
Dear Medikal, the fact that you love your spouse and spend money on her does not mean you also paid off conflicts in your marriage. It does not mean you are clean, neither does it mean your partner is the problem because he is not on speaking terms with your mother or siblings.
I believe you also contributed to their conflict. Since you both don’t want the relationship, the best option is to seek therapy to take care of how you feel instead of taking to the Internet to make your partner appear as the bad person. Dragging Fella through the mud means you are in the mud yourself.
There were many women on earth; no one chose Fella for you. You left a previous relationship to be with her due to what you saw in her. With that you didn’t go online to explain your decision to the public because it’s your private life. Spending on her or investing in her business is your private business. Being a Celebrity doesn’t mean you don’t have a private life.
If you two couldn’t make the relationship work, it remains your private business. Your current behaviour online is not healthy for your child and family. It is sad to see people who claim to love each other—get married, have a kid—then take to the public to destroy their hard-earned reputation.
Seeking public sympathy by painting your spouse dark does not make you look any brighter. A closer look at your video seems to show you being drunk, if I’m right. If you hire alcohol as a therapist, you either embarrass yourself in public or expose your vulnerability.
In conclusion, “Smart people know how to hold their tongue; their grandeur is to forgive and forget” – Proverbs 19:11 (MSG).
Frank Edem Adofoli
Counselor, ADR Practitioner, Conference Speaker, Author
CEO, The Marriage Consult LTD.
T. +233201435300.